“Wait mommy, it’s not ok to hit brother? Why?”
We have all experienced it… That moment where all of the kids are screaming, crying, or having a fit, and all you can do is sit there and stare…
“Not my kids. My kids don’t behave this way.”
Why is it that we get so surprised when we see our children sin? God didn’t send His Son to save a perfect, blameless, and sinless group of people. He sent His Son to save sinners.
Romans 3:23 “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;”
For some reason, it’s easier to think of ourselves as sinners rather than our children. We want to see our kids as little perfect babies. Sorry to break it to you, but my little six-month old is a sinner. As cute as he is, he was born a sinner.
It won’t help us as parents if we don’t understand this. When we discipline our children, we need to remind them they are sinners and it is only because of Christ that we can do anything other than sin.
If you haven’t done so already, you should read Give Them Grace by Elise Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson. It is a great book on this topic. These women are parents that have struggled with discipline like all of us. They started parenting by saying things like, “Does that make God happy?” Then they realized that was not teaching their children the gospel.
It also gives great practical advice on how to discipline, what to say when you are, how to explain that fact that we are all sinners to kids, and much more.
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