The Angry Parents and Fighting Siblings

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I’ve learned something over the past few weeks about siblings. They’re always fighting!!! My kids will fight over anything from a banana that has fallen on the floor to a toy they haven’t played with in months.

Deciding on the right way to correct them in the moment can be extremely difficult. I often find myself doing or saying things out of frustration that doesn’t help my kids in the long run.

“Don’t do that because it makes mommy sad.”

“Why? Because I said so!”

How do either of those phrases teach my children the Gospel? They don’t. It’s that simple. Instead you need to be spend quiet time with God and meditate on the word. What does God say about anger? What does He instruct us to do? You need to have a game plan before you get into that situation. Especially when they are on going things your children are struggling with.

Having verses in mind helps a great deal in the middle of the, I’m about to pull my hair out moments. It can also prevent you from making empty threats that make you look silly. “Stop otherwise you can never play with your toys again!” Admit it. We all do it.

Here are a few verses on anger and trying not to sin in your anger.

“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

-Ephesians 4:32

“I can do all things through him who strengthens me.”

-Philippians 4:13

“Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.”
-Proverbs 10:12

“For the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.”

-James 1:20

So what should we do when our kids sin?

  1. Take your child to another room. I recommend this because it gives you time to calm down before you talk with your children.
  2. Point out the sin. Explain to your child that he/she was sinning when they did [blank]. It’s very important to teach our children to recognize sin in their own life so they can take it to Christ.
  3. We love our children so we discipline them. God calls all of us to disciple our children and raise them up in the Lord. This is one of the ways we do this.
  4. Pray with your child and have them confess their sin to Christ.
  5. Let them know Christ has forgiven them! Assure your child that through God’s grace, He has saved them and forgiven their sins.
  6. Hugs! Encourage your child! God loves them so much that He has chosen them!
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